The people who look out for you
February 5, 2011 § 2 Comments
There can be several most defining moments in your life. Most often, those moments are the hardest, the most challenging. The most defining moment in your life may be when you find out about the truth.
It’s quite shocking to find out about betrayal and the ugly truth. And just the ugliest truth, that you’ve been used, manipulated, and basically abused by the people who supposed to take care of you in the first place. It’s not the shock of revealing who the perpetrator is that’s hard to deal with, but the realization that you have lost your trust and respect to someone whom you once looked up to; someone whom you once thought as having integrity; or strength and courage.
You lay your foundation and you build upon it. You have your faith and beliefs, and you have the hopes and dreams that keep you going. Imagine that shaken to the very core. This is not just about betrayal. It’s about having your belief system completely shattered. You’re left with nothing, and then you wonder, “What on earth am I doing here?”; “Is my dream worth all this pain?”
You can’t turn to hate and blame because you are powerless anyway. There is no revenge because you’re just a collateral damage and no one intended to destroy you in the first place: you’re simply an instrument they take advantage of so they always needed you. In fact, they desperately need you so you’re lead into perceiving a reality they created, and you’re lured into a trap with no possibility of escaping.
This is one the most defining moments in your life. You thought you’re left alone. But then, if you’re lucky and blessed enough, you find out that there are people willing to go to your dark place to find you there, take your hand and walk you through until you see the light again.
In the end, after all this painful experience, what matter are your values: the ideas you uphold and appreciate in life. You learn that the people who take care of and look out for you are the people who eventually have your highest regards and respect for.
Note: Thank you to DMK for being the one looking out for me; you keep me going.